The Purpose of Confession

Whenever I read or watch something about unrequited love there’s always someone who says “you need to tell him/her because you will be filled with regrets and what-if’s” or something like that. But I had a slow realization that it was not about you, the person who may be feeling the same or the “could’ve been” for you two, it was about the selfish intent to let out how you feel.

Why you ask? Just listen to this:

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come fourth later in uglier ways.”

-Sigmund Freud

Do you want to validate it further?

Now, look back/think back to those romance movie/books that you have read/watched. Try to remember the guy/girl in the background, the one the main character did not end up with. Usually the good guy/girl best friend—the one who’s perfect but was just not the one.

Remember how you started to root for them in the part where the main guy and main girl’s situation is so complicated and heart breaking?

How about the time where your heart almost broke for them because they got rejected in the most kind way (remember, sometimes, you need to be cruel to be kind) it was unimaginable to try and picture yourself in their position?

Then I’m sure you remember how the subtle changes in them.

Moreover if you’re a fan of romance genre, I’m sure you have read/watched a book/movie that after the main guy and main girl got together, this third party guy/girl becomes someone you will never imagine. They’d make a 180 turn, personality-wise or they begin acting out.

Sometimes, the above mentioned plot-turn doesn’t have a sweet confession from the third party guy/girl, sometimes they just snap and go ballistic and/or if your reading a mature content (and this third party is a guy), he may start taking advances to the girl where the main guy will save her and make it a significant moment that will strengthen their relationship. Like, damn, if that’s not an ugly way to come fourth, then I don’t know what is.

So confessing your feelings are just a selfish intent to free yourself from the chains that are holding you back in the moment you don't wanna stay. If you get accepted, you can move on to the next phase. Then if you get rejected, then you can move on from this phase.

Now, think about it.

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